53 – Becky

Becky, a white women with shoulder-length curled hair, smiles at the camera. There is a stylized purple hexagon framing the photo.

Becky talks lupus, fertility treatments, and finding a pituitary tumor.


I’m Brianne Benness and this is No End In Sight, a podcast about life with chronic illness.

First off, I want to apologize to any realtime listeners that this episode is coming out a day late. I 100% used up all my cognitive energy watching the impeachment hearings yesterday, because I still don’t expect that lying on the couch watching something like that would wear me out. But it does.

I also want to take a second to plug my own work again. Over the last few weeks I’ve been thinking and talking a lot about seeing friends and family over the holidays and the pressure that we face to heal alongside this emotional double-bind where we’re not supposed to be too happy or too sad when we’re sick. So this week I wrote a piece on Medium called So Long To Healing that breaks down my own relationship with healing (spoiler alert, I’m not doing it anymore) and what it means when I appear happy or sad. I really hope that it resonates with other sick folks. You can find the link in the show notes for this episode and on my medium profile at Medium.com/@bennessb. I don’t know why they include the at sign in their URLs, but they do.

Also, here’s a quick reminder that I have a patreon campaign, which is a really simple way for listeners to support the show financially on a monthly basis. So if you’ve been enjoying the show and you also have a couple bucks to spare, I’d be so so grateful if you’d sign up as a patron at patreon.com/noendinsight

This week I’m talking to Becky about lupus and fertility treatments and finding a pituitary tumor.

This is also the first episode where my guest and I are actively trying notice and reword any ableist language that we use. In order to do this, guests and I are quickly waving at each other whenever we hear ableist words that are still common parts of speech for a lot of people. Consciously changing our language is a process and I really want to normalize this kind of learning, so I’ve left the corrections in for now. I would really love feedback on this, because I might start just editing the language out entirely in the future, tbd.

Before we start, here’s my disclaimer:

This podcast is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Make sure you talk to your practitioner about any questions or symptoms.

[interview transcript coming soon]

Thank you for listening to episode 53 of No End In Sight!

You can find Becky on instagram at @beckbal and you can find me on instagram and twitter @bennessb. And of course you can find this show on instagram @no.end.in.sight.pod. I post pretty regularly to stories and I’ve even had a few posts to the main feed lately! I’ve also just hired someone to help me with transcripts as budget allows, so hopefully that will translate into more regular instagram posts as well as just actually having those transcripts, which is something I really want. If you want to help me get those transcripts out faster, then let me give one more quick plug for the patreon campaign, because that’s where my budget is coming from. You can sign up to contribute at patreon.com/noendinsight.

As usual, don’t forget that I have a small Facebook Group called Chronic Hustlers for people living with chronic conditions who are self employed. It’s quiet but growing, and you’ll even find a few podcast guests in the group.

And finally:

This podcast is supported by my cross stitch company, Digital Artisanal. When I’m up for it, I make simple modern patterns that you’ll actually want to hang in your home. I’ve got some fun fall patterns in the shop, and dozens of very simple icons that you can customize to your heart’s delight. I’d love it if you checked us out at digitalartisanal.com

Looking for transcripts? Episodes 1-47, 54-57, and 62+ are fully transcribed.
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